while it sounds very odd and “blamey” the term originated from Tibetan Buddhist teacher Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Pema Chodron and my own root guru Namgyal Rinpoche https://www.namgyal.ca/ talked about this. It is a form of co-dependency. It is also very much built into ideas about romantic love. Idiot compassion “refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what’s called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.” Chodron exposes the danger in this: instead of offering a friend medicine, bitter though it may be when ingested, you feed them more poison. ” https://rethinkingreligion-book.info/buddhists-dont-have-to-be-nice-avoiding-idiot-compassion/
While Mars is in Pisces November 15- December 31
This almost 7-week transit brings a very big opportunity for compassion for ourselves and others,
“Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into the places of pain, to share in brokenness, fear, confusion, and anguish. Compassion challenges us to cry out with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, to weep with those in tears. Compassion requires us to be weak with the weak, vulnerable with the vulnerable, and powerless with the powerless. Compassion means full immersion in the condition of being human. ~Henri J.M. Nouwen
There are two types of compassion. Idiot compassion and smart compassion.
What is”Idiot compassion”?
What is smart compassion?
This is a very hot topic these days. As victims of sexual abuse and rape find their strength to admit what happened to them, many victims buy into the Christian and spiritual “New Age” belief that you should thank and forgive your perpetrators. It is only truly most important to forgive yourself for any shame or self-blame, as you were innocent. The victim must thoroughly hold that wounded child and re-mother and reparent them with unconditional love through the Great Mother/Father God/dess, until they feel healed and whole, an ongoing process. It is wise to let go of the emotional ties to the perpetrator and not be stuck in that horrible wound to free oneself. Simply pray for the perpetrators healing for one’s own sanity and to move on with the strength and wisdom gained from a terrible experience. In New Age thought thanking the perpetrator for abusing you so that you could have this experience is a popular notion. This idea keeps fueling, aiding and abetting all abusers and abusive cultural “norms” unconsciously and consciously. It keeps a co-dependent relationship going -can’t be abused without an abuser. While this is true, those who have been abused need to solely become their own rescuer as no one can do it but themselves. The abuser is wholly responsible for their own actions which they will have to deal with through their own karma. It’s not the job of the abused to do so at all.
The abused only need to become consciously aware enough to see and feel their own unconscious patterns which have been passed down through DNA through generation after generation of sexual, emotional and spiritual abuse by the hierarchy and religions of the Patriarchy. It is a lineage that has gone on for thousands of years. But now- enough is enough.
Also while Mars is in Pisces it will bring rain to help stop the fires, But that brings with it the possibility of mudslides. So lets pray for exactly the outcome we want. This much rain, no or minimal mudslides.
We must be compassionate with ourselves.
SUN trines Chiron in Pisces November 20
Embrace your soul emotional body and ability to hit the depths of the depths and know that this is part of the reconnaissance mission to resurrect yourself. Be kind to yourself and others.
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